“The Danger of Pouring Out of an Empty Spirit”

Have you ever felt like you’re always pouring out; yet, who is pouring in? This is a common thread among so many, and it’s dangerous to pour from an empty spirit. What happens when you’re pouring out of an empty spirit? You lose focus and usually go home and crash with exhaustion. You’re easily irritated and impatient with those in your household. Little bumps seem like mountains because you haven’t tapped into the perfected strength to climb the mountain. Most importantly and the most dangerous is that you train people not to trust God when they see your oxygen mask is off; yet they still try to suck the life out of you verses going to the Bread of Life. As Believers, we must remember that Jesus saves, not us. Believers have become First Responders. Jesus is not a First Responder. He knows how to prioritize and renew his spirit (i.e. going to the wilderness to pray and rest).

So… How do you discontinue pouring out of an empty spirit? Two words, “Stop it.” It’s nothing deep. 🙂


SPIRIT VITAMIN: “It’s For Our Good”

its all good
Believers as we grow closer to Christ, there’s more revelation, increased knowledge and God begins to do a separation. Many Believers can handle the revelation and knowledge because we immediately become empowered, but often Believers resist the separation from others because lets be honest, separation doesn’t always feel good to our flesh.

Yes you love this person, yes you’ve been friends since the first grade, yes you are lunch buddies at work, yes you thought he was your husband to be or she was your Ruth, but God begins to separate you. “Lord why?” I imagine Jesus saying “I know the thoughts and the plans I have towards you. This separation is not to harm you, but give you hope and a future. Ye of little faith. Trust me… Why are you doubting?” To everything there is a time and season. When you keep fruit and veggies out of season, they begin to stink, mess up the other produce around it and cause the entire environment to be unpleasant. The same thing is true in relationships. Staying connected to those God removed us from will become stinky and tarnish our purpose. Leave a banana on the counter for 30 days and see how it becomes unpleasant. Yes you’re hungry, yes you love bananas (certain relationships), but partaking is not a wise decision.

Believers, God will prune us, mold us, shift people, shift directions, but hold on to this…

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

“No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:37-39


“Know Who You Are, Because of Whose You Are”

Over the last month, I’ve been a student of series called “Humility & Self-lessness.” Today the teacher reminded us of how Jesus walked in humility even unto death. When people asked Jesus his identity prior to the crucifixion, He didn’t rattle off titles (I am the Messiah, the Son of God, Alpha and Omega and Lily In The Valley…). Instead, Jesus remained quiet. When He was falsely accused, though innocent, Jesus did not get defensive. He showed the fruit of self-control. When He was lied on, beaten, spit on and left for dead, He did not exercise his Power against those hurting Him. He walked in forgiveness, “Lord, forgive them, they do not know what they are doing.”

Yes we have all been hurt before and questioned about our purpose, but the question is, “How will we respond? We do not have convince people – “I am called to be a Pastor, Evangelist, Prophet, Worship Leader, CEO, CIO, etc.” This distracts us from our purpose. All we have to do is walk in it. God has already validated us and will do the completed work. When people rise up against us including those close to us, we don’t have to fight fire with fire. Vengeance is mine declared the Lord. Also, the weapons of are warfare are not carnal. Spiritual battles can’t be fought in the flesh. We must get rid of the need to defend ourselves when we know the truth. The truth sets us free from any tactic of the enemy. Brothers and sisters, forgive quickly because unforgiveness is like poison. Unforgiveness is not worth our destiny. It goes further. We are to bless those that curse us. Why? Love never fails. Now that’s self-lessness and not selfishness.

Just remember on this journey called life, there will be mountains, valleys, speed bumps, curve balls, confusion, chaos, war, warfare; but the Joy of the Lord is our strength. It’s not about us. Know who you are because of whose you are.

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” Genesis 50:20

Thanks be to God that gives us the victory.


Conversation with God

Good Morning Lover

Good Morning Lover

Cast all your care upon me and I will give you rest. Today I don’t want you to take no thought or worry about anything that robs you of your peace. Let me take care of them. As your bridegroom I long to be with you today and just abide in you. I opened up this day anticipating our communication. Through your rush and haste today, you forgot to speak to me. But, rest assured, I know you thought of me in your heart. I don’t have insecurities, so I trust in the relationship we have. You don’t prove to me that I am number one in your life by the routines that other men do. You know like, I pray three times a day, I study the bible every morning at 5 am. I know the strength of your love for me is when you say I trust you Lord when your days seems dark. I feel it when you got that unexpected surprise and you immediately say thank you to me. I see in when you come to the aid of a friend or family. I know even then that you are loving me. Please don’t treat me with the world’s recipe of love.
I love you in so many ways daughter, and it takes a special woman to see me in the many areas of her life. But, I love you so much that in so many ways, I tell you that I love you daily. I’ve gone to prepare a special place for you my bride. I have adorned with everything that a bride would want and is worthy of. I want you to know your value today. That’s why I don’t want you to worry about anything today. I want to take that burden away. I don’t want any petty distractions that subtract you from the woman you are.
Today I want you to take time by spending time on your vision. I have planted purpose in your heart and filled you with my expectations of you to make you whole and complete. I know that I have given you the heart to help others with their dream, but today work on your vision. What is the difference between dreams and visions? Visions are your purpose and dreams are someone else’s vision.
I’ll wait for you at the end of the day as I always do. I close each day with thoughts of you and how I have secretly admired you throughout your day. I smiled as I saw you showing kindness to a co-worker who you felt didn’t deserve it. I marveled at the softness of your voice when you suppressed your anger and I felt like you were talking to me as you flirted with your spouse. I love you daughter and there is no one else like you in my life.

1 Peter 5:7bags

Dr. Harris

Are you a Fan of Jesus or Follower?

After digesting a few pages of the book “Not a Fan,” it will challenge your thinking and make you reevaluate your relationship with Christ. The intro provides enlightenment on how Jesus handled discipleship. He spoke of the will of the Father. Our intentions are good; however so many things that we do as Believers are good; however, they aren’t God (i.e. John 6:44 – “No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him…”). Believers are you Fans or Followers? Webster’s Dictionary defines a Fan as a person who has a strong interest in or admiration for a famous person. It is easy to be a fan of Jesus miracles, signs and wonders, but He did not call us to be fans. In Matthew 4:19, Jesus said, “Come, follow’ me and I will make you fishers of men.”

Reflect on John 6 when Jesus fed the five thousand. Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to me will never go hungry, and he who believes in me will never be thirsty.” When Jesus said “I am the bread of life,” He is conveying that He the only thing on the menu. The crowd has to decide if Jesus alone will satisfy or if they are hungry for something different. In many verses of John 6, Jesus gave an uncompromising word about the Father. At the end of the chapter (John 6:66), several of His disciples turned back and no longer followed Him. Why? They were mere fans.

The author of “Not a Fan” was struck by the fact that Jesus did not chase after them. He didn’t soften his message to make it more appealing. He didn’t send the remaining disciples chasing after them with a creative handout inviting them to come back for a “build your own sundae” ice cream social, food and fellowship, giveaways or other.  Jesus was okay with the fact that his popularity has plummeted.  It was and is more important to Jesus to be about His Father’s business than watering down a message.

Believers, we must do better. God is calling us higher. So… “Are you a Fan or a Follower?

Leading Ladies Tour

The His Will, Her Way Conference exceeded our expectation. We are anxiously anticipating the Second Annual Conference later this year. Meanwhile, the Leading Ladies Tour is coming soon to Jacksonville, Fort Lauderdale/Miami and Atlanta, GA. The speakers are refreshed, personable, full of wisdom, and will shift your mindset to becoming an Intentional Millionaire.

What makes this tour different? You will not just get empowering information, but you will learn practical life application. Stay tuned for more exciting details.

Finding Friday

Finding Friday:  This entire week has been a world wind of emotions.  I’ve felt disconnected this week due to internal issues with family and friends.  But, yet I rose to do what was expected with work and other activities.  This week many times I masked much of what I felt except to those who can see right through me.  I felt such an overwhelming sadness this week that I still have not completely shaking.  When you couple that with disagreement with your husband (yes, I said it), a sick child in another state, empathy from friends pain and just a sense of feeling helpless.  I command my morning and define my days, but this week it was a struggle.  I have learned to depend on my sisters.  Erica Brooks, Tangie Henry, Pontress S. Bailey shoulders are much heavier for holding me up.  This Friday is not Freedom Friday for me.  I’m not focused and I’m running on adrenaline.  I can get over me, but I can’t bandage the wound I feel for my family or friends.  I hurt for my husband and Siobhan Hardy who has lost grandparents this week, my “Beetle” who has the flu in Florida  and to a mom who is in another state it’s torture.  From the hurt a close friend is experience by being taken advantage of, to those who are struggling to keep faith.  Finally, to hear that there is a shooting in NYC.   With the love you have, how does it not affect you?  My process is different than most.  I have 40 years of emotions that was unleashed.  Some mis- applied, but surges all at once.  Many will say you have to master your emotions.  I know that, and time is helping me with that.  But, until I do, I am still walking out most of it.  I want to care less, because it hurts so much now that I do.  It was simpler when I could walk away or ignore the hearts of others.  But, this day, on this Friday….I’m lost and I can’t find my Friday.  I know it will come so there in lies my hope….  I just pray my hope is not deferred.

Microscope Monday

Microscope Monday:  Let each woman examine herself closely.  Over the last few months I have been from one event to the next. I’ve learned some things along the way.  One events are nerve racking, two, it takes careful planning.  Three, women are very slack (yeah, I said that too.)  Recently a friend was having an event that had food.  The day before her event only 10 people had paid.  About 50  people showed up at the door.  She also told me that many of the ladies said that they would pay at the door.  The problem with this is that, she was not able to account for the food.  This is the same with a friend who had a conference, many wanted to pay the day of event.  How do you account for the conference material if you don’t have an idea.   And finally, I’ve been to events local and other, where women have RSVP and not shown up.  This is probably a personal pet peeve of mine, because that is disrespectful.  Most of us LL are managers of something even if it is our own home.  So we know the details are in our details.  RSVPing to an event and not showing up is not support.  Ladies, please stop doing it, or do not do it as a LL.  With everything let your answers be yes and no.    We have a reputation as being catty and un-supportive as other women.  Let’s begin to change that right now and today.  Many of you know that if I say I will do this…. or say that I will be there.  Nothing short of death, hospitalization or something beyond my reach… I’m there!  I’m loyal and I practice loyalty.  On this microscope Monday, make a commitment to someone else’s vision or event and stick with it to the end.    Do something wild like RSVP to someone and SHOW UP!  I love the English language and my WORD means everything to me.  Happy Microscope Monday!

Who, What, Where,When Wednesday

Who, What, Why Wednesday.  I’ve been missing in action for two days and this is the reason why.  There are many mysteries that we will never know on this side of Glory.  Questions like, Why are here? Why is the world round? Who is the creator? What is my purpose?  Where did God come from?  For the last few days my questions are God, why so much pain?  Why, do we have to die to live? Why can’t I heal everyone and especially those I love? (just being real)  Yesterday I was mixed with emotion because one of my truest friends came to visit.  She is dealing with cancer.  I didn’t want her to see the fear I’ve had for 3 months.  I wanted to be her cheerleader this because she has been my biggest supporter and cheerleader.  Laeh Shea exists because she told me I could do it.  As soon as I saw her, the most amazing kind of love flooded my heart.  I secretly felt my heart beating for her.  I wanted to breathe for her; I wanted to take all that she has endured away but mostly fight Cancer for her.  At that moment I wanted to trade places with her. I felt that I could do a better job and give her rest.   I’ve loved her for awhile now, but the depth of my love surprised me.  I realized my love had transitioned from friends to sisters.  We embraced but this time was different. It was a little longer than our standard greeting.  Her arms felt weak, but the strength of her virtue cradled me.  Her eyes read I needed to see you and I knew too, it was what we both needed.   She is living to fight while I have been fighting to live.  I’ve asked myself what is the difference now in our love.  Before, as friends  we laughed and we cried together and had fun.  But, a sisterhood has emerged.  We became family.   She said to me today, YOU ARE MY FAMILY.  Family is all we really have in this world tangibly, everything else is but a vapor.  I took a chance on loving her and I won!  For those few hours, we knew that we had reached a spiritual depth that mainly comes through a near death experience.  Her’s physically, mine emotionally.  Today, I added one more step on the Leading Lady Ladder.  I have experienced true sisterhood.  I felt her cancer as if it was my own. What cancer has tried to steal ,kill and destroy has been replaced with loving kindness.  Ladies, I’ve found my newest level of love and it looks so good on Lashanda Miles.